Safety Tips

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  • If you feel you have been a victim of assault, in any manner, or are in danger of being assaulted... CONTACT YOUR LOCAL LAW ENFORCEMENT RIGHT AWAY!! NEVER be too embarassed to get help. You are NOT ALONE!

  • If you believe you have been a victim of a scam by someone you met online... CLICK HERE TO REPORT IT TO THE FBI

  • Sanitize your social media. Lock down your friends list so only you can see it. You do not need to share where you work, went to school or who your family members are. People who know you will already have this information, or can ask you for it, directly. Many people overshare their personal information. This is a good tip to help prevent identity theft, as well.

  • Create a free email account that you will only use for online dating. To include your online dating provider.

  • When meeting for the first time, in person, ALWAYS meet in a PUBLIC place, drive yourself and let everyone know where and when you are going to meet. HAVE A FRIEND ALREADY ON SITE BEFORE TIME TO MEET TO KEEP AN EYE OUT FOR YOU.

  • Stay in your online dating platform messaging for at least a week. We prefer longer, but not less than a week. Do not share personal/identifying information with persons online. It can be absolutely anyone on the other side of that computer screen.

  • NEVER show your license. Do not fall for the "I don't believe you are that old... prove it." Old trick and they now have your license number and address.

  • NEVER show your car registration. Do not fall for the "I don't believe this is your car. It must be a rental... prove it." Old trick and they now have your address.

  • If you go to your vehicle and see that two (2) or more tires have been flattened and they have gained access to the interior where your registration is... Contact your local law enforcement IMMEDIATELY to do a courtesy drive-by of your home (and contact any persons at your home). This is an old tactic to keep you away so that your house can be robbed. No one has two(2) spare tires. Even if they did not gain access to the interior but you have started dating someone who knows your address.

  • Do not have them to your home or share your address. This does not mean after you have met one time in public allow this person to your home. This is not only for your safety but also your friends and family.

  • Do NOT post pictures of minor children on your online dating profile, or in private!! There are a lot of predators out there. Your children and grandchildren are all beautiful and wonderful, but please think of their safety. There are bad actors who will target you just because you have minor children, even on occasion. PLEASE... PLEASE... PLEASE... Follow this tip!!

  • NEVER leave your drink, phone or other personal items unattended. Again, it doesn't hurt to have a friend already on site to keep an eye out for you.

  • Do NOT leave out personal mail where your new dating partner can have access. Especially bank statements, but also utility bills or anything else with account numbers, etc.

  • Always shred personal papers. Never throw in the trash where they can be easily accessed.

  • You can check their photos in Google Image Search to see where else on the internet the picture is used. Scammers use the internet to find fake pics for their profiles. Simply right click the image and select "Search Google for image". If you do not have that option simply click here is no guarantee that this will be 100% effective. We are not affiliated with Google, or their services.

  • Remember, people can say anything. If something doesn't feel right or seems to good to be true... it probably is and you should EXIT.

  • NEVER send money or other assets. If the person makes this request... EXIT.

  • Use this service to:
    1. Anonymously share your experiences to help others and also research someone before meeting.
    2. Read, and participate, in the blogs.
    3. Read the news and internet articles.
    4. Check the safety tips to keep up to date with new tactics bad actors may use.